I REALLY need to decide: what is a good contraceptive for us?

my fiancee and i have never had before (he has but im a virgin), we're waiting until we get married. neither of us like the idea of our first time together with condoms between us. we really want to feel each other (not to be too graphic, just sayin) the first time. i am NOT going on birth control. i dont like the side effects. neither of us want kids either so we were considering a vasectomy and he's all for it. but we have been talking lately and realized that we may want kids a little more than we thought at first. definately not for another 7 years though at least. so thats a NO to condoms, and birth control. i know a vasectomy is reversible but what is the process like? has anybody had a vasectomy reversed? any problems ociated with it? any other options for contraceptives that are reliable? i dont want any accidents when we dont want children yet. i need experiances and opinions please! thanks!